Why Is It So Hard to Say “I’m Not Okay”? Let’s Get Real.

Let’s keep it one hundred—saying “I’m not okay” can feel like admitting defeat. Like if we say those three words, we’re somehow weaker, broken, or not measuring up to the “strong friend” label we’ve been carrying for years. But the truth is, silence doesn't make the pain go away—it just bottles it up until we explode or shut down.

So why is it so hard to admit when we’re struggling?

For some of us, it’s pride. We were raised to “keep it together” no matter what. For others, it’s fear—fear of being judged, misunderstood, or dismissed. And then there’s that good ol’ survival mode.

We’ve been pushing through for so long, we don’t even recognize what peace feels like anymore.

But here’s the thing: healing starts with honesty. Let’s take off the mask for a second.

You don’t have to be everything for everybody all the time. You don’t have to smile through the storm.

It’s okay to admit you’re tired. It’s okay to say you're hurting. And it’s okay to not be okay—because pretending you're fine only delays the healing God wants to give you.

So what can you do when you feel yourself slipping, but the words “I’m not okay” still won’t come out?

Here Are a Few Steps to Help You Start:

1. Check in with yourself. Pause and ask: “How am I really doing?” Be honest. No filters. Journal it out if you need to.

   
   

2. Give yourself permission to feel. Emotions aren’t the enemy. They’re messengers. Feel them, don’t fear them. Cry. Sit still. Breathe.

   
   

3. Find a safe space. Whether it’s a trusted friend, therapist, or coach—talk to someone who listens without judgment. Sometimes, just speaking it out loud is the breakthrough.

   
   

4. Pray and be still. Take it to God in prayer. You don’t need fancy words. Just be real. “God, I’m not okay, and I need You.”

   
   

5. Take small steps. You don’t have to fix it all in one day. Do one healthy thing for your mind, body, or soul daily. That’s progress.

Let me remind you of something powerful:

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” —Psalm 34:18 (NIV)

You’re not alone. God sees you. He hears those unspoken prayers. And He cares about what you're carrying. Being honest about your struggles isn’t weakness—it’s strength. It’s the first step toward real healing, real peace, and real growth. Don’t let silence rob you of your restoration.

You got this—and if you need a dose of encouragement, I’m right here.

—Coach Nina 🤍

www.thatdoseofencouragement.com

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