Coping with Loss During the Holidays

Did you stuff yourself this Thanksgiving with all the traditional foods that bring comfort and warmth? While holidays like these are meant to be shared with loved ones, for some, they are a painful reminder of those who are no longer here. The holidays can be especially difficult for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one.

I remember when holidays were tough for me. Even though I’d join work parties or family gatherings, sometimes the weight of missing my loved one made it hard to enjoy those moments. I know firsthand how deeply grief can strike, especially during a season that emphasizes togetherness.

With Christmas right around the corner, if you’re grieving the loss of someone, allow me to offer this encouragement: You are not alone, and God is always with you. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”

Grief can hit like a ton of bricks, often without warning. This holiday season, try to surround yourself with people who care, or reflect on the cherished memories you have. Remember those joyful moments, like shared laughter or simple acts of kindness. And above all, be kind to yourself and remember to breathe. Grief is a natural response to loss. Give yourself grace and know that it’s okay to feel sad during this time.

You are going to be okay. In the beginning, after suffering a great loss—whether it’s the death of a loved one, a divorce, the loss of a job, or even the end of a long-term friendship—it’s incredibly difficult. I wish I could tell you it gets better right away, but healing is a process, and it takes time. However, as the days go on, you will find it does get a bit easier.

There will still be moments when the pain resurfaces, when you reflect and wish that loved one were still here, even if it's been five or ten years. It might feel like it all happened just yesterday. For those who have experienced divorce, seeing happy couples and families may bring feelings of longing and loneliness. If you've lost a job, you may be wondering how you'll recover or move forward, feeling like the future is uncertain or no longer bright.

But here’s what I want you to hold onto: that deep, agonizing pain of what is no longer will not last forever. In time, peace and healing will find their way to you. Surround yourself with support, and don’t be afraid to lean on others, to laugh again, to love again, and to enjoy your life without guilt. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting; it means finding a way to move forward while still honoring what you’ve lost.

If you’re in need of grief coaching, please connect with me. I understand this journey all too well, and I want to help you navigate through yours. You don’t have to go through it alone.

Minnina Smith

Coach | Mentor | Writer | Author | Future Therapist

"Healing is not just about mending the past; it’s about growing through the pain and emerging stronger, with a renewed sense of purpose." - M. Smith

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